Wednesday, 8 June 2016

Porn and Masterbuation addiction I need help!!


Over the years as a counselor I've discovered that the issue of pornography and masturbation is an issue of major concern to a lot of people especially the young minds. I got a mail from someone who has be caught in the web and needs your help. Find his message below...
"Lady v, I am addicted to watching porn and this always leads me to masturbation. To be honest with you I really don't like it anymore and I want to stop it but I can't , if I try to stop it I will still see myself doing it. Please help me."

If you have any advice that you feel would be useful to this individual, kindly leave a comment below.

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4 comments:

  1. Vanessa, am happy to be the first to comment. I want to share a link from my blog with him. Incidentally I published an article on the five causes of masturbation.

    Am not publican or marketing my blog. Am trying to help. You must have to know the causes of a problem before you can actually tackle it. So I present to you....five causes of masturbation..........

    http://www.michaeldoosblog.info/2016/06/five-causes-of-masturbation-read-to-end.html?m=0

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  2. Lady V my advice to him goes this way: Masturbation happens in every culture, across every period of history, and it's the way most adolescents discover what they enjoy before embarking on adult sexual relationships. However, if it's becoming an obsession that inhibits other aspects of your life, or you belong to a religion or philosophy that forbids masturbation, then it's possible to curb the impulse, gather your self-discipline, and take control of your urges.
    Make a plan for avoiding masturbation during your "go to" times of day. If you have problems before going to bed or in the shower, refrain from any temptation to masturbate.
    Be persistent and patient. Stopping a masturbation addiction won't hit you like a lightning bolt. It's a process that requires commitment, and you might make mistakes or relapse on occasions. The real struggle is persevering, so commit now that you won't let little mistakes stand in your way.
    Getting in the Right Mindset
    Stop punishing yourself. Consider it this way: if you're constantly dwelling on the disapproval that some may feel about masturbating, then you're still thinking about masturbation all the time.
    Remember, you're human, and humans masturbate. Some studies show that up to 95% of males and 89% of females admit that they have masturbated. You'll feel less shame once you realize you are not alone.
    Resist the urge of sinking into despair by remembering the times spent feeling sorry for yourself when it could have been spent relinquishing your addiction.
    Don't believe the myths about the harms of masturbation.
    Here are some things that masturbation will not do to your body:
    Masturbation can cause infertility, premature ejaculation, or impotence if excessive.
    Masturbation can cause insanity in the form of an anxiety disorder and depression.
    Masturbation may possibly cause blurred vision, or even eye floaters.
    Masturbation will not cause frequent urination.
    Masturbation does not affect facial hair, growth, facial features, kidneys, testicles, or skin problems, or cause any major physical issues! These are all myths.
    Know that it will get better. If you have the faith that you can really find a way to stop your masturbation
    Know when to seek help. If you've tried everything and just can't seem to get your addiction under control, it might be time to tell someone else about your problem and ask for assistance. Don't feel ashamed, and remember that many people have similar problems like an addiction. Seeking help is a brave action, and most people you ask will see it as such.
    Ask your religious leader for guidance. If you belong to a church, consider asking your local clergy for help. Keep three things in mind: First, these people become part of the clergy because they're dedicated to helping their congregations.
    Lady V encourage him read this carefully, it will help him. Thank you for your restless works.

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  3. atching Porn gets you addicted to masturbation.

    Masturbation has you believe when you ejaculate your body is released off tension.

    Whilst your Spirit is groaning and moaning for the violation of the demon of lust you have allowed in

    You have the power to violate and cratch your spirit with the claws of lust through porn.

    Porn is a very dangerous demon.

    You may take it light and make jokes about it and think nothing of it

    But wait till you see the horror of what it does to the delicacy of your Spirit being.

    Porn takes the Glory of God out of you. It strips you off your authority.

    It strips your mind off intelligence.

    Your language when you are amongst smart and sound people will be exposed through the lack of wisdom in your speech

    Porn eats your brain cells from making sound and intelligent decisions in everything you do.

    You will be forcing people to take you serious whilst to them you look like a joke

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  4. First, I will advice to get born again if you are not, make jesus the lord of your life! Cos rules and formulas won't solve this issue,' porn & mas'is spiritual! I don't wanna sound spiritual but, is only jesus that can give u true change. U have to renew your mind by the word of God. If you'r serious & u want change from my advice on how to get born again and Be spirit filled email;korahnazri@gmail.com, I tell you the truth your life will take a turn around. this not a cliché

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